A Real Warrior, A Real Struggle

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Late 2011 vs Mid 2013

A couple of weeks ago, I walked into Synergy at 5:30am to Rob’s “Good morning Sunshine” and instead of my normal response, I plopped down in his office and just started crying.  Poor Rob – Coach, Trainer, Therapist, “One of my girls,” and a true friend – He sees it ALL.  I was in pain and couldn’t understand what happened to the progress I’d made over the last 15 months.  I was feeling pretty defeated and like no one could possibly understand how both physically and emotionally painful this set back is for me.  In typical Coach Rob fashion, he gave me some sage advice and asked me to write a blog about my set backs because, “It’s real life.”  

From 2011 to mid 2013, I had gotten much healthier and was in great shape, so I was devastated when my car accident restricted my ability to work out for almost a year.  I gained at least 40 pounds and felt like I was back at SQUARE 1.  Let’s BE CLEAR, I am NOT one of those girls that can work out 3x a week and eat healthy and stay in shape.  It takes work.  At any size, I have been very active, able to do yoga, and run around in stilettos; after my accident, I could do NONE of these.  For me, this was unacceptable! IMG_4459

When Rob and I started working out, I took breaks between exercises within a set and often times, I would have to sit on the floor and stretch before I could continue.  But I WOULD NOT QUIT – I persevered!  IMG_7948There were days I would work out 3 times a day, once with Rob, once in the pool, and then cardio.  I was on a mission.  From the end of April 2016, only 3 months out of surgery, to December of last year, I made huge strides.  I dropped weight, was able to regain some of my balance, and could workout without taking breaks! I could see the light at the end of the tunnel!  

During my recovery period, I have been plagued with a lot of emotional life changes.  I am going through a divorce, I lost my career, because of the extended leave of absence, and I was/am (2 years later) in a horrific lawsuit with my car insurance company.  So, I threw myself into looking for a new career and working out.  After several months of looking, another of Coach Rob J’s Real Warriors, Steph, helped me find a new career I LOVE!  Her team at Hire Ups is AWESOME!    I was finally feeling like I had gotten my life back!  Within 3 days of being back in an office environment and sitting, I was in excruciating pain and absolutely ready to give up.  You know that saying, “a body in motion, stays in motion?”  Ummm that’s TRUTH right there!

IMG_1040Due to the pain, I went to my surgeon and received less than stellar news about the future of “my back health.”  My last few sessions with Rob had been emotionally taxing, because I had lost a lot of my agility, balance, and stamina.  The biggest deterrent for me, the pain.  I was/am scared of the pain that is waiting for me with every workout.  I told Rob through tears, “I just can’t do it (I have never said this phrase to him until that day!), I am just so frustrated.”  He let me cry and rant and curse a little about the uninsured driver that changed my life and then he leaned across his desk and said, “I’m sorry Sunshine, but you can do this.  We just need to go back to what we know works.  Baby steps.”  So here we go, BACK to the beginning…For the record, I HATE BABY STEPS!           

 

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There’s an action step right before you, TAKE IT!

Coach Rob, BAM

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Team KILLA’s Set #3 – The Fam-BAM!!!

IMG_5585How did my workouts and diet change my family life? 

I started my fitness journey a little later in life and started a family a lot earlier, so my life is a bit different than the lives of some women.  I live with my husband of 23 years and our adult son, so my time is more flexible than some wive’s and mother’s.  My schedule allows me to leave before work to train with Rob, and go for round two at the gym right after work.  This has actually encouraged my husband and son to increase the number of their workouts during the week. My husband and I work out at least twice a week together at the gym.  We kill some cardio and workout in the free weights section too!  The greatest thing has been that I am able to show him new workouts that he has never tried, like the TRX! I also really love it when my son asks for fitness or nutrition tips too!

IMG_6649My guys are pretty easy going  when it comes to meals.  My husband and son have very similar tastes in food, which are basically the complete opposite of mine.  I recently adapted to a mostly plant based diet.  I may be making tacos with soy crumbles and whole wheat tortillas while they are eating beef and regular flour tortillas, but we still cook and eat together as a family.  They are both very supportive of my fitness and nutrition goals and even help me find “vegan” options while we are at the store.

Since I started this fitness journey a year ago, my entire family has become more conscience of our health and nutrition choices.  We have all lost weight and increased our physical activity.  IMG_3450It’s wonderful to see how what started as a personal step has actually benefited my entire family.  We are all together on this journey and we are ALL IN! BAM!!! 

 

 

Who holds your feet to the fire?

IMG_5120.JPGNo man or woman is an island and no goal worth accomplishing will happen without the help of others.

If you are seeking a change or to develop a new habit, it would be extremely advantageous to find an Accountability Partner (AP).  We can accomplish difficult tasks and make huge leaps toward our goals using our personal fortitude and will power, but if you want to go the distance and do great things, then you must enlist the help of someone that will hold your feet to the fire!

Don’t make the mistake of over thinking the qualifications of your Accountability Partner.   IMG_6616The only real qualification needed is that your new partner will have your best interest at heart and that they’ll be brutally honest with you. Another thing to keep in mind — the accountability process / partnership will work best if you’re open and honest about what you are working on or need to work on.  Give your AP as much detail as possible and make yourself as vulnerable as you feel comfortable.  Your AP should be a “safe place” but a place where you will be challenged and stretched to move out of your comfort zone.

If you need some statistics to convince you that an AP is the way to go, The American Society of Training and Development (ASTD) did a study on accountability and found the following statistics:

The probability of completing a goal if:

  • You have an idea or a goal:  10%
  • You consciously decide you will do it:  25%
  • You decide when you will do it:  40%
  • You plan how  you will do it:  50%
  • You commit to someone you will do it:  65%
  • You have a specific accountability appointment with a person you’ve committed to:  95%

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Remember, an accountability partner will be honest with you, won’t listen to your excuses, will give you honest feedback, will give you a motivational push when you need it, and will hold your feet to the fire when you want to give up!  So if it is in business, fitness, or just doing life better that you are now, seek someone that will hold you accountable and help you attack your goals.  BAM!!!

The MILLION Dollar Word

IMG_5107Motivation is a 10 letter word that is worth a million dollars! No goal can be achieved without maintaining motivation and staying on track.

The motivation to take care of yourself quickly falls by the wayside when a child needs something, work is pulls you in several directions, or let’s face it, you’re just too tired to put forth the effort.  I stress the importance of motivation and just showing up to all my clients.  Some days you may feel like you are only able to do 20 minutes on the treadmill when you normally do 50, but every minute counts and showing up helps you maintain the motivation and consistency.  An integral part of staying motivated, is to find a source of inspiration that speaks to YOU and to remain positive!  Maintaining motivation is tough for most of the world, so I have laid out a few tips to help you find your motivation.

To maintain motivation, encourage yourself like you would encourage your best friend, child, or co-worker.  Far too many times, we are inclined to think negatively about ourselves and the areas where we need improvement.  We would never sit silently by if a friend or child was constantly putting themselves down, so why treat yourself this way?  Men and women alike, would benefit from changing their inner dialogue to positive thoughts, especially in regard to health and fitness.  Instead of telling yourself you need to workout because you are “fat,” “out of shape, ” or  have “let myself go,” say one of the following affirmations: Dwayne-Johnson-The-Rock-Motivation-Quote-about-Success “I am working on being healthier.”   “I am investing in myself and my health.”  “I am working on being the best version of me.”

To maintain motivation, surround yourself with support.  A supportive environment will serve as a safety net when you are struggling to maintain your motivation or need a pep talk.  Reach out to people who live a healthy lifestyle and ask for tips, advice, and use them to hold yourself accountable.  Accountability partners can motivate you in a number or ways; they can remind you of why you’re on this journey, encourage you to make it to the gym, and be your biggest cheerleader when you have successes.
To maintain motivation, find resources that speak to you!  
There is not a single motivator that works for everyone; like eating plans and workout regimens, try as many as you need to try until you find the right fit.  The internet provides infinite resources that are available 24/7.  As you are surfing the web, note your reaction to fitness pages, health blogs, or transformation photos and add the most inspiring to your “favorites” for continued motivation.

IMG_5099There is no universal answer for maintaining motivation. All of my real warriors, are motivated by different things. I have some that are motivated by health issues, some are motivated by wanting the ideal body, and some are motivated by wanting a better quality of life. One thing they all have in common is that they have found the key to keep motivated and work consistently and persistently on themselves.

 

Fresno Fit Chef

IMG_5956My passions are food, weight lifting, and fitness but that hasn’t always been the case.  My life changed when my trainer, Coach Rob, introduced me to WEIGHTS!

I am a quintessential example of unhealthy extremes and self medicating.  I have been so thin that I wore children’s clothing and I have also been an over 300 pound alcoholic.  It was clear that I needed to learn moderation, find a plan that worked for me, and overhaul my attitude about life and my health.

When I was in high school, I was a swimmer, a dancer, and a cheerleader; with the metabolism of a teen and these activities, I wasn’t an overweight child.  Long past high school and after years of struggling with my weight,  I was 324 pounds.  Everything ached, my hips and back hurt, and I was drinking regularly.  I knew I needed to do something to change my life.  Too embarrassed to go to a gym, but certain I had to change my life, I called Synergy Fitness and was introduced to Coach Rob.

When I met Rob, I needed someone who understood where I was both physically and emotionally.  Physically: I couldn’t plank for even 2 seconds and I couldn’t do a push  up, nope, not even 1.   Emotionally: I was drinking too much, had a negative attitude, and was embarrassed by my inability to perform simple workout tasks.  After my first session with Coach Rob, my homework was to practice doing a push up.  I was below ground zero.  image1

Rob and I worked on my fitness, my diet, and most importantly my attitude.  I decided if I was going to spend money on a personal trainer, I was going to follow what he said to the letter.  I committed to the process and implemented everything Rob said and within 8 – 9 months, I lost 70 pounds and gained a lot of MUSCLE!

I don’t think any other trainer could pull out of me what Rob pulls out of me during every workout.  My goal was to get rid of my hip and back pain and in the process, I changed my life and discovered my passion, myself, and my NEXT GOAL!

You can follow my continuing journey on Instagram @FresnoFitChef and on Facebook @FresnoFitChef!

 

Food, Fitness, & the F-Word

IMG_5599Patience is a virtue with which I was not blessed.  Since I was a child, I have wanted to do things full speed ahead and beat my own personal best.  In 2011, I was told by my general practitioner that I was borderline diabetic and with my family history, I needed to start taking medication.  Devastation. Panic. Tears.  Yes!  I had a full on “terrible twos I want cookies at the grocery store meltdown,” but I was much older and in a doctor’s office without parental supervision.

My visceral reaction was deeply rooted in my fear of developing diabetes and dying of complications like my father, who died at the young age of 56.  The look of surprise on my doctor’s face was not comforting and neither were the rapid fire assurances, explanations, and solutions with which he attempted to calm me.  I took a few deep breaths and as he handed me my prescription, I ripped it up and said, “Give me 30 days with no meds and I will be back.”  (My personal choice to refuse medication was not condoned by my doctor.)  There was  no way I was going to pop a pill to control something I could make better by changing my lifestyle.

A girlfriend suggested I watch, “Fat Sick and Nearly Dead.”  I mean let’s face it, when a FRIEND suggests you watch that movie, it kinda says a lot.  I watched the movie, invested in a pricey juicer, and started raw juicing.  For one full month, I walked swiftly into my office without so much as looking at the bagels and donuts.  Instead of high-caloried lunches, I took mason jars filled with unappealing brown and green raw juice to my business meetings.  30 days later, I was down 15 pounds, and the doctor agreed to monitor my weight loss progress instead of put me on a prescription drug.  I took control of my health. 

After surgery February 2016

Weight loss and being healthy is a daily struggle for many Americans and sadly, one I have dealt with my entire life.  FAT, “the F-Word,” stopped bothering me when I was in my mid-twenties.  My philosophy, if “FAT” is the worst thing someone can say about me, I am doing great at this game of life.  The only problem, my health was now being effected, so confident and secure or not, I was unhealthy.  After a few years of my new lifestyle, I was down almost 90 pounds but still battled to lose the last 30 pounds.

In July of 2015, EVERYTHING changed, I was T-boned by a car traveling 55-60 mile per hour, my car was totaled,  and I had to have serious spine surgery.  I was emotionally derailed by my serious fear of surgery and the arduous recovery ahead of me.  My surgery was more complex and more painful than anticipated and I was depleted by the adverse effect my car accident had on my life. IMG_1998 After a trying and crying month of walking around the block with a walker and a month of slowly walking laps in the pool, I was over baby steps.

When my surgeon finally agreed to allow me to slowly get back to my normal workout schedule of 4-6 times a week, I knew I couldn’t do it alone.   I had lost a lot of my balance, stamina, and confidence in my ability to even walk up the flight of stairs to get to the gym.  I needed a cheerleader, a therapist, and a trainer who wouldn’t run when I started crying because I lost my balance on 7 out of 10 reps during leg day.   I needed someone to make sure I took baby steps.  I needed someone who believed I could bounce back, because I didn’t.  Coach Rob was the man for the job! BAM!!! #FoodFitnessNtheFWord

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